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Relationships are complicated and can end for many reasons… cheating, lying, abuse, neglect, irreconcilable differences! Whatever the cause, when a romance is over it can be devastating. You may feel as though your best friend died. Your range of emotions can take you from upset and crying to angry and bitchy to even giggly at times (which usually leads back to tears).

What’s actually happening is that you are grieving the “death” of the relationship, and whether you like it or not, this process is usually inevitable. Although it is especially common for women to go through this kind of mourning period, a lot of women have trouble coming to grips with this kind of sudden loss. Many will obsess about their former lover, hang on to their somewhat altered memories of the way things were, and make excuses for their actions, never really getting to the root of the problems. Unfortunately for these women, once they make it through this period, they will be eager to get into another relationship without taking the time or making the effort to examine their own behavior. This will compel them to repeat the same mistakes with yet another man – only to be disappointed once again.

Well, I’m here to tell you that whether you are recovering from a failed relationship, feeling lonely, or just unhappy with the status or quality of your sex life, this can be a golden opportunity for you. You’ve got a chance to make a fresh start, and you should take advantage of it. Right now you can make changes that will finally stop that seemingly endless cycle of confusion and despair by improving your self-esteem! Self esteem is the foundation for success in life. How you feel about yourself has everything to do with the choices you make and the relationships you form.

Boot Camp For The Broken-Hearted will teach you how to improve your relationships in three phases. In Phase One, you will learn how to let go of your past and bring yourself mentally and spiritually into the present. Phase Two is an examination of your current thought patters and behaviors as well as a speed course in understanding men! Finally, in Phase Three you will re-learn positive, productive and loving communication techniques and behaviors that will promote a healthier self-image, improve your relationships, help you to set and reach goals -- enrich your life!

Are you in a dead end relationship because you are afraid of being alone? Are you tired of feeling used and abused?

Do you feel like you are doing all the giving and being taken for granted? Are you always attracted to the same type of “loser”?

Has the spark left your romance? Have you become soured toward ever finding happiness? Read On!

Former victim of abuse helps clients 'get rid of the fear'

The Boston Globe, May 4, 2008

Audrey Valeriani is a writer and a relationship coach.

Growing up in Charlestown, MA, Audrey Valeriani literally spent her youth in darkness. With the shades drawn and television at its lowest volume, she took great care not to awaken her father as he slept the days away on the living-room couch.

Reeling from the depression and anger within her home and the bullies she encountered at school, Valeriani says, she became even more susceptible to abusive relationships after losing her mother to cancer. Her aunt, who had become a surrogate mother, succumbed to the disease a few years later. "I'm sure there were some good times, but I don't remember any," Valeriani says. "I can't imagine what my life would be like if I hadn't actively pursued improving my self-esteem and getting help. I might not even be here."

Now happily married and living in Jamaica Plain, Valeriani is an author, columnist, and relationship coach. She is not a psychologist, but mentors clients worldwide "as someone who's been there" through her website, theaccidentalexpert.com. Her recently published book, "Boot Camp for the Brokenhearted: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love," was inspired by her real-life experiences, she says. It includes anecdotes from her one-on-one coaching sessions, research, surveys, and interviews.

"Get rid of the fear holding you back and make a plan for the future," advises Valeriani, who is also the chairwoman of the board of the nonprofit Self Esteem Boston Educational Institute. "You can't move toward the right road if you're standing still."

CINDY CANTRELL

SO ARE YOU READY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND FOLLOW THE ADVICE OF SOMEONE WHO'S BEEN THERE?

Boot Camp for the Broken-Hearted: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love will show you how to:

♥ avoid the pitfalls and break the self-sabotaging habits that can doom relationships to failure!

♥ establish and maintain a healthy self-image!

♥ pinpoint common problems in relationships and isolate easy, effective, field-tested techniques resolving them!

♥ build self-esteem and lean to treat yourself with the respect with which you treat everyone else in your life!

♥ take a more assertive approach to life management and relationships by ending the repetitive cycle of disappointment!

♥ set life goals that you can actually achieve!

BOOT CAMP FOR THE BROKEN-HEARTED as seen in

WOMAN'S WORLD MAGAZINE

February 2008 Issue

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Take the Self-Esteem Test

Do you get overly upset when little things go wrong?

Do you base your decisions on what you think you “should” do or on the opinions of others?

Do you find it difficult to listen to criticism?

Do you speak up for yourself?

Do you often respond defensively to others?

Do you care too much about being judged by others?

Do you feel anxious or fearful in social situations?

Do you compare yourself to others?

Do you feel guilty if/when you speak your mind?

Do you hide your true feelings?

Does your fear of failing prevent you from pursuing your dreams and goals?

Do you often feel as though you are being taken advantage of by others?

Do you think negatively a lot of the time?

Do you feel like the world is out to get you?

Do you put off doing things that are important to you?

Do you treat or think about yourself harshly when you make a mistake?

Do most or all of your relationships result in your dissatisfaction or heartbreak?

Have you given up on finding the right person for you?

If you answered “yes” to more than two of these questions, you may want to review and improve your self-esteem. Life is too short not to go through it feeling good about yourself and enjoying every single day!

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